FAQs: From Therapists, and About Trainings for Therapists

General Questions:

  • Comprehensive Bibliography
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  • How does learning more about EcCT benefit my practice?

    Here is what Hedy says:

    The Encounter-centered Couples Therapy clinical training is the latest version of the continuously unfolding discoveries I am making in my couples laboratory. My newest thinking about "what works best" with couples is woven into it.

    During the training I teach the nuts and bolts as well as the heart and soul of the integrative model I now call EcCT. I have built into the training video segments from the new EcCT video program.

    It shows my Intensive two-day session with one couple. I use it to demonstrate all of the underlying principles of the model.

    You will leave the training with a powerful grounding in the basic principles of EcCT, which you will be able to integrate into your current knowledge and experience as a couples therapist. Incorporating the new learning's into your practice will give you increased confidence, grace and boldness in your future work with couples.

  • Do you provide couples therapy on an hourly or weekly basis?

    We provide a two-day intensive session for couples called the Encounter-centered Couples Therapy Intensive. Hedy’s experience has shown that this format is very transformational and more effective for the couple than hourly therapy sessions. Your EcCT Intensive can be in your native language of English, French, Hebrew, German, Spanish or Yiddish.

    For more information on this opportunity, please review Private Sessions for Couples and contact us at 305-604-0010 for available dates.


     

Regarding the Trainings for Therapists:

  • What is the difference between the Tikkun Training and the new EcCT Training?

    When Hedy was teaching Imago Relationship Theory and Therapy, the model that she was presenting was continuously evolving. New metaphors were put in place. A different focus emerged. Then she began to teach the unfolding model as Tikkun. Tikkun is the Hebrew word for the fusion of healing, repair, transformation and completion. As she continued to develop ideas through observations in her couples laboratory, the crystallization of her work was birthed: the "three invisible connectors": the Space - the Bridge - and the Encounter.  Just then she was invited to present a TED talk in Israel, and she was given the opportunity to "essentialize" her work in 18 minutes. As she continued to study couples with these fundamentals in place, the name of the couples therapy she is now teaching revealed itself: "Encounter-centered Couples Therapy."

    This revelation coincided with putting the finishing touches on a professional video package of her work. The DVD set will be a training tool with ten parts, following Hedy's work during the two-day Encounter-centered Couples Therapy Intensive session with a couple.  EcCT is the fruit that materialized from her labor, not just over the last 20 years of observation in her couples laboratory, or her 36 years of professional work as a clinician, but of her entire 67 years of life experience.

    The EcCT training is the latest version of Hedy's unfolding work. Her newest thinking about couples is woven into it. She built the EcCT training around video segments from the new DVD set, which allows her to present a very systematic structure and a powerful grounding of the work that she does with couples. It gives people a chance to visualize as well as conceptualize the basic principles that she is presenting. People who have been to the Tikkun training will find this training new and different, while at the same time a deepening of concepts to which they may have previously been exposed.


 

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“Healing After an Affair” is a two-day experience developed by Hedy, for the repair of the rupture, in the relational bond of couples, created by an affair. The private intensive session results in re-connection, restores compassion, forgiveness and intimacy, teaches how to make authentic mutual amends, and rebuilds mutual trust for a new future together.

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