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WHAT THE HECK DO I DO NOW?

My plan starts with the most radiant Future put on the horizon. It then goes to the darkest “survival” Past, observed and named. And then my plan designs a creative and productive Present, in which the couple becomes the authors of the Book of their Life, and the Past is not “a silent voter” anymore in their apparent Present.

UNRAVELING THE SURVIVAL KNOT

An EcCT Couples Journey   Today I am very excited to be sharing with you something new. It is an insight which revealed itself last week after my journey with one of the most challenging couples I have ever worked with. And I find it really quite amazing that with all...

THE UNINVITED GUEST

In our Tele-conference today I am reviewing with you a session that I conducted with a couple, which for me was a first. It is a couple where the husband has had multiple sclerosis for 20 years out of their 27-year marriage. Multiple sclerosis is a disease that eats...

“The Two Brothers” and the Relational “WE” Muscle

I decided to dedicate this first Tele-class to the first two sessions which I did after the Sabbatical month that I took after the mastectomy on July 26th. And as I began to write this lecture, I realized something I had not seen before. It was about “goodbyes” and “hellos”: the “goodbye” to my left breast, and the “hello” to my new life as a one-breasted woman.

THE NEURAL DUET

The core question that I will share with you today has revealed itself to me as a result of delicate and challenging journey that Yumi and I are on at this time. In January Yumi made a profound request of me. His request was: “Be with me!” And we both decided that I would.

THE GROWTH SPURT OF THE THERAPIST

I am going to explore with you the phenomenon of the “growth spurt” of the therapist. And as you know from knowing me, it’s not having a growth spurt that is new for me. But what is new for me to be so keenly aware of the phenomenon of having a growth spurt, of paying attention to its elements, of writing them down, and then having a “community of practice” with whom I can explore the whole phenomenon.

RUPTURE AND REPAIR

I have decided to dedicate my lecture today to the fascinating subject of Rupture and Repair in relationships. I was inspired to talk about Rupture and Repair after spending an afternoon with my daughter-in-law Rachel. I call Rachel not my daughter-in-law. I call her my daughter-in-AWE.

FROM GOOD TO GREAT

Based on Jim Collins’ ideas and concepts out of his book From Good to Great FROM GOOD TO GREAT: 5 CORE PRINCIPLES   1.  LEVEL 5 LEADERSHIP: It all starts with a unique brand of leadership, which Jim Collins calls "Level 5 Leadership." Level 5 leadership is a...

ENCOUNTER-CENTERED COUPLES THERAPY

A PATH TO RELATIONAL MATURITY By Hedy Schleifer, MA, LMHC   "All of life is in the Encounter" Martin Buber   I. HISTORY Encounter-centered Couples Therapy (EcCT) represents the crystallization of my 35 years of experience as a psychotherapist, using 20 of these years...

BECOMING A CREATIVE COUPLE

Transformational Change in Couples Therapy   Today, I am exploring with you the exciting new frontier of Memory Re-consolidation in Couples Therapy. I am going to look at the distinction between two types of changes that occur as a result of the therapeutic journey of...

Hedy teaches how to keep the romance and excitement alive over time. Don’t miss this!

How to Rebuild Your Life Together After an Affair

Watch this clip from the newly released AFFAIRS: A Step-by-Step Process for Reconnection video program.


“Healing After an Affair” is a two-day experience developed by Hedy, for the repair of the rupture, in the relational bond of couples, created by an affair. The private intensive session results in re-connection, restores compassion, forgiveness and intimacy, teaches how to make authentic mutual amends, and rebuilds mutual trust for a new future together.

Watch Hedy’s TED talk
About the three invisible connectors:
“the Space, the Bridge, and the Encounter”