The core question that I will share with you today has revealed itself to me as a result of delicate and challenging journey that Yumi and I are on at this time. In January Yumi made a profound request of me. His request was: “Be with me!” And we both decided that I would.


I am going to explore with you the phenomenon of the “growth spurt” of the therapist. And as you know from knowing me, it’s not having a growth spurt that is new for me. But what is new for me to be so keenly aware of the phenomenon of having a growth spurt, of paying attention to its elements, of writing them down, and then having a “community of practice” with whom I can explore the whole phenomenon.


I have decided to dedicate my lecture today to the fascinating subject of Rupture and Repair in relationships. I was inspired to talk about Rupture and Repair after spending an afternoon with my daughter-in-law Rachel. I call Rachel not my daughter-in-law. I call her my daughter-in-AWE.


Based on Jim Collins’ ideas and concepts out of his book From Good to Great FROM GOOD TO GREAT: 5 CORE PRINCIPLES   1.  LEVEL 5 LEADERSHIP: It all starts with a unique brand of leadership, which Jim Collins calls "Level 5 Leadership." Level 5 leadership is a...


A PATH TO RELATIONAL MATURITY By Hedy Schleifer, MA, LMHC   "All of life is in the Encounter" Martin Buber   I. HISTORY Encounter-centered Couples Therapy (EcCT) represents the crystallization of my 35 years of experience as a psychotherapist, using 20 of these years...


Transformational Change in Couples Therapy   Today, I am exploring with you the exciting new frontier of Memory Re-consolidation in Couples Therapy. I am going to look at the distinction between two types of changes that occur as a result of the therapeutic journey of...

Couple Relationships: Adventure In Intimacy

Why couple relationships often do not work and how we can change that ... By Natalie Viaux (Translated from the original German article in the November 2017 issue of Sein Magazine)   Life is relationships. To be means to be in a relationship, because without...

Encounter-centered Couples Therapy: A Path to Relational Maturity

Encounter-centered Couples Therapy (EcCT) represents the crystalization of my 35 years of experience as a psychotherapist, using 20 of these years to work intensively with couples in a clinical couples laboratory. EcCT is an integrative relational model at the intersection of philosophy, clinical theory, organizational methodology and relational neurobiology. It aims at assisting couples to experience the most….

The Turtle and the Hail Storm

Couples universally dance a classic “survival dance”.  You may identify when you read this fable of the “turtle and the hailstorm.” However, with steady and regular crossing of the bridge, looking into each other's faces with new eyes, the reactive survival dance...

Hedy teaches how to keep the romance and excitement alive over time. Don’t miss this!

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How to Rebuild Your Life Together After an Affair

Watch this clip from the newly released AFFAIRS: A Step-by-Step Process for Reconnection video program.

“Healing After an Affair” is a two-day experience developed by Hedy, for the repair of the rupture, in the relational bond of couples, created by an affair. The private intensive session results in re-connection, restores compassion, forgiveness and intimacy, teaches how to make authentic mutual amends, and rebuilds mutual trust for a new future together.

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About the three invisible connectors:
“the Space, the Bridge, and the Encounter”