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An Introduction to Encounter-centered Couples Therapy
Hedy Schleifer explains the two laboratories of her work with couples
Hedy Schleifer talks about the two laboratories of her work with couples, and the insights she as gained from these two areas of her life.
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AFFAIRS: A Step-by-Step Process for Reconnection
An essential training tool for therapists helping couples recover from an affair
This nine-part training program for therapists is on 5 DVDs, and runs approximately 300 minutes. You will follow Hedy step-by-step, as she utilizes Encounter-centered Couples Therapy, during a 2-day intensive session, for bringing about deep reconnection and love in a couple on the verge of divorce, following an affair.
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What is Encounter-centered Couples Therapy (EcCT) ? Interview with Hedy Schleifer
What is Encounter-centered Couples Therapy (EcCT)? Watch and enjoy this new interview with Hedy Schleifer. She will give you an in-depth look into Encounter-centered Couples Therapy.
A League of Extraordinary Couples – Hedy interviewed by Amy Elizabeth Gordon
Hedy is interviewed by Amy Elizabeth Gordon as part of the spectacular and passionate series “A League of Extraordinary Couples.” Hedy talks about what matters most in dissolving conflict and deepening connections.
Creating Transformation in Couples Therapy - Hedy interviewed by Shane Birkel, LMHC of "the Couples Therapist Couch"
In this episode of The Couples Therapist Couch, Hedy Schleifer and Shane Birkel go deeper into the ideas created by Hedy in her method of working with couples called Encounter-Centered Couples Therapy. She talks about visiting each other’s neighborhoods and unraveling the survival knot. The way that Hedy works with couples is deep and transformative and leads them into much greater intimacy with one another.
SOURCE: Couples Therapy Couch
Hedy interviewed by Rabbi Jacob Rupp from "Lift Your Legacy" podcasts
Hedy Schleifer and Rabbi Jacob Rupp of the “Lift Your Legacy” podcasts have a fascinating, thought-provoking discussion on a range of topics. Among them are how Hedy found her passion and calling to help couples; Encounter-centered Couples Therapy and the Three Invisible Connectors in her work with couples; the challenges our younger generation faces in our technological era in terms of living in connection; and the importance of honoring the sacred space where our children live. Hedy also tells a personal story of her and Yumi’s own challenges and fears when they presented a workshop in Austria for the first time.
Encounter-centered Couples Therapy - Hedy interviewed by Shane Birkel, LMHC of "the Couples Therapist Couch"
Hedy Schleifer has developed a deep and rich model of working with couples based on her decades of experience as a couples therapist as well as using her own relationship as a “living laboratory.” Encounter-centered Couples Therapy is an experience for one couple to work with the therapist for two full days and connect with each other in a way they have never imagined. In this episode she gives a detailed overview of how she works with couples in this way. This experience leads to transformational change for the couples and there is more and more research to show that the synaptic process of the brain can be changed through something called memory reconsolidation.
SOURCE: Couples Therapy Couch
Hedy Schleifer with Dr. Erica Goodstone at Women and Love Summit
On October 14, 2017, Hedy joined Dr. Erica Goodstone for the “Women and Love” Virtual Summit. In her talk, Hedy reveals the step-by-step roadmap for entering the most treacherous territory of a couple’s relationship, where one person’s toughest neighborhood meets the other person’s toughest neighborhood.
Hedy shares the results of the Encounter-centered Couples Therapy work that she developed with couples in her and Yumi’s own “couples laboratory.” Hedy presents the method she calls the “Unraveling of the Survival Knot” in the developmental growth journey of a couple. The “Survival Knot” is the principle stuck place of couples, the unconscious and yet essential agenda embedded in the “problem” with which they appear in the office of the therapist.
Heal Your Relationship at the Deepest Level – Hedy interviewed by Neil Sattin of the “Relationship Alive” podcast
In this episode of the Relationship Alive podcast, Hedy Schleifer and Neil Sattin discuss a particularly sticky place that comes up in most relationships. It’s the place where your deep desires meet your partner’s fear and resistance – and vice versa. How do you unravel this dynamic, to experience the magic that lies on the other side? That’s what we’re going to cover in today’s episode with Hedy Schleifer. Hedy, the co-creator of Encounter-centered Couples Therapy, is going to describe what she calls “Unraveling the Survival Knot”. In this process, you get to uncover the gift that lies deep within the core of your relationship. The Survival Knot could seem like an impasse at first, but then it becomes a source of profound connection, growth, understanding, and healing for your relationship.
How to Be Fully Alive in Your Relationship – Hedy interviewed by Neil Sattin of the “Relationship Alive” podcast
In this episode of the Relationship Alive podcast, Hedy Schleifer and Neil Sattin discuss how Encounter-centered Couples Therapy works, with actionable strategies to help any couple move towards deeper connection and intimacy. In this thought-provoking conversation, you will learn more about how Hedy helps a couple get in touch with their wildest dreams for themselves in relationship, and then, working with the present moment, finding the pathway that leads out of being stuck and into a dynamic aliveness in their relationship.
From Good to Great: The Pathway to Therapeutic Excellence - Seminar at the 2016 Psychotherapy Networker
Hedy led a “Creative Day” seminar at the Psychotherapy Networker Symposium on March 17, 2016.
Are you searching for a way to move to the next level of clinical expertise and enjoyment in your work? In this workshop, take part in an experiential learning adventure in how to go from “good to great.” You’ll leave with renewed energy and inspired ideas on how to become the therapist you envision yourself to be.
You’ll also discover:
- The research-based principles for growth developed by Jim Collins in his bestselling classic Good to Great
- The fundamental principles at the heart of professional competence and best practices for pursuing them
- Your core goals, values, passions, and ways to maintain your focus in the face of obstacles and challenges
- How to confront difficulties and disappointments and use them as a launching pad for increased confidence
Creating a New Reality in Couples Therapy: Breaking Free of Weekly Sessions - Seminar at the 2016 Psychotherapy Networker
Hedy led a two-part workshop at the Psychotherapy Networker Symposium on March 18, 2016
Everything we’re learning about the brain and the challenge of transforming deeply engrained emotional patterns tells us that the weekly appointment approach of traditional therapy is a limiting, highly flawed format. To help couples create new realities and move into a fuller experience of intimate connectedness, we need to provide opportunities for more immersive learning that fully engages the mind, body, and spirit of both partners. This workshop presents an intensive approach to helping couples transform their relationship. You’ll learn:
- A step-by-step, experiential, multiday format that can provide a powerful boost to once-a-week therapy for guiding couples to explore a new style of connection and intimacy
- How to expand mutual empathy by teaching partners how to “visit” each other’s emotional neighborhoods and better understand even the most painful places in their psyches
- Strategies for guiding each partner to meet in a “main square” that they can mutually inhabit in emotional alignment with each other
||The Uninvited Guest|| - My Most Unforgettable Session
An Evening of Storytelling at the 2016 Psychotherapy Networker Symposium
Watch and listen to Hedy tell a story about “The Uninvited Guest” during one of her recent Intensive sessions with a couple. Told at the 2016 Psychotherapy Networker Symposium as part of “An Evening of Storytelling” on March 17-20, 2016.
“Unraveling of the Survival Knot” Interview with Paula M. Smith M.Div, MFT
Join Hedy Schleifer in this interview as she presents what she calls the “unraveling of the survival knot” in the developmental growth journey of a couple. The “survival knot” is the principle “stuck place” of couples, the unconscious and yet essential agenda embedded in the problem with which they appear in the office of a couples therapist. The “survival knot” is what couples experience as their impasse issue, where one person’s anguished desperation meets the other person’s dogged resistance, and vice versa. In this interview Hedy reveals the roadmap for entering the most treacherous territory of a couple’s relationship, while taking a structured and coherent step-by-step journey.
The interview was with:
PAULA M. SMITH M.Div., MFT
Certified IMAGO Therapist
Marriage Consultant, Teacher & Workshop Facilitator
Hedy speaks, in German, at Lebensenergie Konferenz (Life Energy Conference)
If you speak German, here is an opportunity to enjoy listening to Hedy being interviewed by Helge Grotelüschen. She is one of 21 speakers at the Lebensenergie Konferenz that took place on March 19-26, 2016.
South Africa: IONO.FM Radio Interview with Hedy Schleifer, MA, LMHC
Hedy was recently invited to do a radio interview with Otherwise (IONO.FM Radio) in South Africa on August 6, 2015. In this interview, Hedy talks about the Adventure In Intimacy Workshops for Couples that she does with her husband Yumi. She explains that all couples are always invited whether they are in a wonderful relationship and want to deepen it or whether they are in crisis and want to transcend it. She explains that we don’t find the perfect relationship but instead we create it and make it happen. Listen and enjoy as Hedy explains the advantages of attending the couples workshops.
Hedy interviewed by Entrepreneurs' Organization
Hedy Schleifer speaks to Entrepreneurs’ Organization (EO) as part of their Think.Feel.Lead. resource.
Psychotherapy Networker - Affairs: The Reconnection Journey
Hedy led a two-part seminar at the Psychotherapy Networker Symposium on March 26-29, 2015 Part 1:
Psychotherapy Networker - The Transformational Encounter
Hedy led a two-part seminar at the Psychotherapy Networker Symposium on March 20-23, 2014 Part 1:
The Realm of Presencing in Connection
Listen to this recording that Hedy made about how she invites couples into the realm of “presencing in connection”, and how she supports them in acquiring the skills of “into-me-see.” You can also read the entire blog post and transcript of the audio clip.
TEDxTelAviv Conference | April 26, 2010
Tel Aviv, Israel, Hedy Schleifer was invited to be one of the influential 20 minute lecturers at the TEDxTelAviv Conference.
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“Dissolving Frustrations” from the award-winning documentary, “Hedy and Yumi: Crossing the Bridge”
Frustrations are opportunities! Hedy and Yumi Schleifer teach couples 7 principles and 7 rituals (skills) for thriving relationships. From the workshop, this scene is part of a new documentary film “Hedy and Yumi: Crossing the Bridge”
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Hedy & Yumi Schleifer on Singapore Morning Show
While in Singapore leading a workshop for couples and a corporate training on relational intelligence, Hedy and Yumi were interviewed for a Singapore morning show – the Singapore version of “Good Morning America”
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Hedy and Yumi interviewed on the television show "The Balancing Act" on Lifetime Television
Watch Hedy and Yumi’s exciting, informative and eye-opening interview on The Balancing Act on Lifetime Television. They return to talk about the importance of demonstrating 100 daily caring behaviors, widening our “appreciative eye”, and learning to speak the primary love language of our partner.
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Hedy and Yumi | March 11, 2011
Be sure to watch Hedy and Yumi’s heartfelt, engaging and entertaining interview on The Balancing Act on Lifetime Television. They reveal how they keep such a strong connection between themselves and for their couples by teaching the power of connection.
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A Journey of 42 Years of Marriage Experience – interview with IMAGO THINK TANK Linda Marshall
IMAGO THINK TANK Linda Marshall had the honor and privilege of interviewing Hedy Schleifer on the Imago Think Tank. We have a real treat in store as Hedy shares her journey of 42 years of marriage to her beloved Yumi, how their marriage has impacted her clinical work, and how her clinical work has impacted their marriage. If you are new to Imago and haven’t had a chance to experience Hedy, you will be captivated and inspired by her humor, insightful information, wisdom, and deep spiritual sense. Hedy, assisted by Yumi, served as Linda’s first clinical instructor in 1994 as she was becoming certified as an Imago therapist. Wow!! What a beginning. Hedy’s joy and passion for what she does is contagious. Because she is so empowering, Linda has gone on to take several advanced trainings from Hedy and Yumi as well. Hedy and Yumi were honored at the Vienna conference in recognition of their contribution to the “planting” of Imago in Austria and the creation of the Austrian Imago Community. Hedy and Yumi have been pivital in “planting” Imago in Israel and South Africa as well. The above excerpt was written by Ed Shea, LCSW and sent to the Imago Therapist community. Listen to the phone conference with Linda Marshall
Three Invisible Connectors | blogtalkradio
August 14, 2012 Invited by Dr. Erica Goodstone, director of The Healthy Baby Boomers Network, Hedy Schleifer was a guest on Dr. Goodstone’s radio show. During this 45 minute interview, Hedy describes the “Three Invisible Connectors.” Listen to this show and learn about the Space between you and your partner, crossing the Bridge to the world of your partner, and the Encounter you experience with your partner on the other side of the bridge. Three Invisible Connectors: Space, Bridge, and Encounter
The Power of Connection: The Three Invisible Connectors | The Blissful Living and Loving Virtual Conference
February 8, 2012 Invited by Just Bee to participate in the The Blissful Living and Loving Virtual Conference. Hedy talked about The Power of Connection: The Three Invisible Connectors Listen to the Audio of The Power of Connection: The Three Invisible Connectors
How To Build Lasting and Productive Relationships | Positive Living with Patricia Raskin
Patricia welcomes Hedy Schleifer on her live program “Positive Living” where Hedy discusses how to build lasting and productive relationships in both our personal and professional life. Listen to the Audio Show with Patrica Raskin
The Conscious Relationship Summit
March 2009 In this program Hedy will share life-changing lessons from her very personal odyssey of the Miracle of Connection- relationship as a sacred journey. You will learn:
- How to honor and fertilize the sacred relational space between a couple
- How to embrace a relationship not as a problem to be solved, but as a bountiful gift to be enjoyed
- How to recognize and cross the Bridge to Connection
- The mysterious and awesome potential of the Miracle of Connection to replace fear and anger with love and compassion to achieve Shalom Bayit (Hebrew for ‘peace in the home’) in our relationships and in the world
Listen to the Audio of The Conscious Relationship Summit
The Miracle of Connection: A Space, A Bridge, An Encounter | GoodTherapy.org | February 2010
In her talk, Hedy will reveal the “Three Invisible Connectors” of a productive, effective, and growing couple relationship. She will describe them through three generative metaphors: rthe Space, the Bridge, and the Encounter. She will weave a theoretical tapestry that combines the philosophy of Martin Buber, Imago Relationship Theory, the organizational methodology of Appreciative Inquiry, and the newest findings of Relational Neurobiology. Listen to the Audio of The Miracle of Connection: A Space, A Bridge, An Encounter Part 1
Listen to the Audio of The Miracle of Connection: A Space, A Bridge, An Encounter Part 2
Listen to the Audio of The Miracle of Connection: A Space, A Bridge, An Encounter Part 3
Interview with Stacy Brice: Creating Shared Space - Why Deepening Friendship Matters | July 2010
From Stacy: “Just about everything good I know about relationships I’ve learned from Hedy Schleifer. No one else has had the profound impact on my relational maturity, my capacity to love others, or my understanding of how and why to create sacred space between people than Hedy has. So I’ve asked her to please make the time in her very busy schedule to come talk with us more about the very essence of how and why deepening friendships is important to us as individuals, and important to the world as well.” Listen to the Audio of Creating Sacred Space – Why Deepening Friendship Matters